Two Ways to "Not Care"

So the other day I wrote in my journal that there are two ways to "not care" what other people say or think about you or what they do to you. In a victim mentality you'd be saying "I don't care what you do to me because pain is my vice (psychic pain, emotional pain, or physical pain) or because I 'deserve' it". But when you step out of that mindset, you will eventually be able to say "I don't care because your words and actions can't hurt me" because you will know them to be reflections of their insecurities, not mine; for I have been letting go of my insecurities. And once here, no one can get a rise out of you, no one can trigger your anger because you will finally recognize that there is no fight, especially if you regularly decline the invitations. And after that I wrote an affirmative prayer:

Mother, Father, God, Great Spirit, Our Creator, in this moment, the wounds from my mother are healed. Mother, Father, God, Great Spirit, Our Creator, in this moment, the wounds from my father are healed. For I release the once festering wound into your healing grace. The events of the past have now, lost their gravity, their weight. I now choose to view my path through God's eyes and see every trial as equally beautiful and necessary as my triumphs.

For our triumphs wouldn't be as impressive without all the trials.... The hardships were where I had to unlearn and relearn behavior patterns. And since I chose a life with early and severe traumas I had a dense and thick layer of learned acceptance of pain because I had felt pain and suffering was my birthright (who wouldn't when your biological parents are the source of all your physical and emotional pain?) which obviously takes a lot of time to heal.