This is an exercise I learned this evening and I thought I should put it into words ASAP so that I can start practicing and letting go of all the things holding me back. This does not make a person delusional, but by restructuring our past experiences we can begin to heal the negative influences they've had on us.
What happened: I was abused and neglected as a child (pre-adoption) causing me to feel unloved, unlovable, invisible to others, helpless and lonely.
What I would have liked to have happen: A loving care free childhood in which my parents were able to provide the attention my siblings and I needed in order to thrive and who were able to control us without resorting to violence. (post-adoption)
What happened: Was left out and underestimated while working in groups
What I would have liked to have happen: Have my group mates give me the time I needed to read the directions thoroughly or even let me read them aloud and to politely correct any minor mistakes I might make.
What happened: Got verbally bullied by one of my bosses about my lax efforts when I was doing everything to the best of my ability and with fair reasons.
What I would have liked to have happened: Had a chance to talk it out with her so that she could shift her perspective of my work.
What happened: Was feeling as though I was being taken for granted at work when they continually scheduled me 11-5 when they and everyone else was aware that my co-worker could use a bit of help in the dining room in the mornings. I pulled my weight in a way that most of my co-workers don't and I was getting fewer hours than them.
What I would like to have happened (and is actually already starting to happen): They have me scheduled for 7-2 next week.
