Healing the Unknown

How can you tell whether you have
healed your heart-ache
or simply learned to bear it with ease?

When the source of your pain,
of your wounds
is veritably unremembered,
it is easy to assume
that you have recovered
quite well and quite fully.
Which means the wounds
received in childhood
are often brushed aside,
ignored, or forgotten
before they ever
have a chance to heal.

Children, teens, and adults of all ages
can all carry emotional baggage
without ever knowing
what it is made up of,
without ever knowing
why it's so damn heavy
or even
how they came to own it.

So again this begs the question:
How can you tell whether you have
healed your heart-ache
or simply learned to bear it with ease?

Sit quietly and consider
whether your last celebration
was tinged with sadness or bitterness.
Sit quietly and try to recall
if your happiest moments
involved proving someone wrong.
These are signs that
you may have walls up
to protect an already broken heart.

If you are afraid to be happy,
if you are suspicious of success,
if you find that you are
as tired of being invisible
as you are reluctant to be seen;
these are all signs
that you still carry the pieces
of a broken heart.

So, how can we heal,
how can we put the pieces
back together while
dismantling the walls?

With time and patience.
But firstly,
you must believe that you
can heal the unknown.

With love and compassion.
Believe it or not,
loving your wounds
and having compassion for oneself...
These things act as a balm, as a salve
thus alleviating
the irritation.

With your intention.
"Energy flows
where attention goes."
Every day,
and this is important...
every
single
day
set the intention
to heal yourself.

I don't think people realize that the wounds we carry from childhood, either heart-break or trauma are often mistaken as healed when in reality we simply got used to the pain. There have been three separate occasions in which this phenomenon has been brought to my attention; I had felt fine, felt fully recovered and then someone came along who was able to point out that I am not and then I feel that, indeed the weight is still there.