I have come to accept that my inner child did not know how to tell someone that she was hurting and that the pain was caused by this person's inability to accurately perceive the picture I was painting. I eventually lied to myself by agreeing all I needed was willpower. But I was simply applying willpower to the continued suppression of shame and guilt. Now that I've labeled that picture I painted, I can (and have been) appropriately using my willpower to keep in mind that my own self-hatred harmed someone else. This lesson has ironically helped me to begin acquiring the skills of self-forgiveness, self-compassion, and self-love...just by the simple fact that self-love is necessary in order to be emotionally safe for others.
Apparently, I had to get a brutal wake-up call...apparently I had to unintentionally hurt someone else.
I'm sorry my emotional overwhelm became destructive. I'm sorry I couldn't make my truth understood so much sooner. I'm sorry for losing control. I'm sorry that I allowed my inner child to burn bridges. I was tired of feeling pain. I was tired of it coming from a loved one who was blind to my inner world no matter how hard I tried to make myself understood. I tried...I tried a lot...I tried hard to be understood. And when I kept failing...I lied to myself. I lied to myself and a part of me thought that doing so would "keep the peace".
I can forgive myself. I can give myself grace. I can give myself compassion. So at long last, I no longer need to seek these from you or anyone. I have only love for you.
Now that you've seen me self-destruct, can you see why I am/have been afraid of my emotions?
I told you a few times that when my emotions are intense enough, any and all good decisions are erased from my mind. I know you thought you understood me, but apparently I was trying to explain the taste of lemons to someone who has only ever had lemonade. I'm sorry I found clearer language far too late.
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